"You mock my pain!" she snarled at him... "Life IS pain, Highness... anyone who tells you different is selling you something." — The Princess Bride.
This line really sung to me as I watched this movie the other day. I've seen it before, but never paid that particular line much attention. Which makes sense, because what I was all about then, and what I, and most people I know, have been all about for our entire lives is the avoidance and attempted escape from pain.
It makes perfect sense that when you value "painlessness" above all else, that you would then do every single thing you do in life with the singular goal of painlessness in mind, and ignore lines such as that one. What that means is that you will use everything you do as a tool to reach that goal. The goal of your painlessness... the goal of your comfort.
Comfort is easy. There are myriad things that provide comfort... they are many and plentiful and come in all shapes and forms. From drugs and alcohol, to spirituality and religion, to fabrics and spaces, to love. Comfort is undeniably part of life, you cannot escape it or keep it from finding you in its way. Comfort is a given.
So is pain.
Pain is undeniably part of life too, but it is severely undervalued. Pain is limitation, it is challenge, it is the hot hot heat that pushes down... pain is the thing that grabs you, it is the spark that ignites the investigation, it is an open question that begs an answer, a solution, another WAY, and it is the very richness that makes the comfort seem sweet at all. It is dark and dizzying, and it's perfectly part of the whole.
Great beauty comes of pain, just as great pain comes of beauty.
They are the rose and the thorn.
They do not come apart,
they come together.
They are part of this beautiful package we call life. You don't get to pick and choose the pieces, it's a bundled deal. And the deal, my friends, is DONE.
So one day you wake up and realize that what has changed, is that you no longer value painlessness and comfort above all... and you begin to discover what truly pleases you, what your heart really wants, instead.
And it turns out...
it wants it ALL.
What has changed is that I no longer need to avoid pain, because I know there's no chance in hell I'll avoid it. So I walk right into the fire. Cause why not? ...
I look good in flames.